Let us accept the fact that sex is more than just the ability to procreate. It can also be a sheer means of pleasure or a means of connecting to your partner. However, sex is a subject that is largely only whispered reluctantly, left under wraps and never properly spoken about— even at the cost of health and safety.
Sex is a mystery for most of the teenagers as they do not have any elder who is ready to come forward and shed some light on the subject. Sex education is not a part of school curricula for the same reasons – a confusing mixture of embarrassment and awkwardness is evoked. This automatically means most of our knowledge about sex comes from unreliable sources like our friends, the Internet, some hideous magazine, etc.
Even after growing older, some of us (especially women) do not have any well-etched idea of this subject, because more a premium is placed on women and their ‘honour’, which prohibits them for engaging in such thoughts and conversations. The number of biases, hostile opinions and hypocrisy attached with sex has enormous ramifications for women, who are often at the receiving end of sexual violence and are unable to raise their voices.
It is therefore important to talk about the myths associated with sex. Here’s a list of all the myths, added are the facts about it –
MYTH: Oral sex is Safer than Vaginal Sex
FACT: This is not true. People believe they can only get STDs through Vaginal Sex but what they don’t realize is that even in oral sex they still exchange fluids. Women have higher risk of getting STDs like Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea and even HIV, as most men do not use condoms during Oral Sex.
MYTH: All Women Orgasm
FACT: It’s not necessary that all women orgasm. Many men give precedence to their own orgasm over the woman’s. This does not mean they do not enjoy sexual pleasure; they just can’t go to the end of the journey or climax which orgasm is. Also, to satisfy their male partner’s ego, many women fake orgasms as they feel it is better than stirring up trouble.
MYTH: You can only orgasm through penetrative sex
FACT: According to a study, it was recorded that most women need clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm and only 30 percent tend to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone. It also depends on the position in which you have sex. Also, some women are extra squeamish and require both clitoris and G-spot stimulation to achieve it.
MYTH: He ‘cums’ first or he has to ‘cum’ first
FACT: It is important for your male partner to cum, but it does not mean your orgasm isn’t important. You should discuss openly with your partner what works best for the both of you, as it should feel equal and right for both, and not just the man.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant the first time you have sex
FACT: False! You can get pregnant anytime you have unprotected vaginal sex or when you aren’t on birth control. It is even possible for you to get pregnant before you have your first period.
MYTH: You can’t get pregnant during your period
FACT: It is possible to get pregnant after having vaginal sex even during periods. This is because the sperm can survive in your uterus for six days.
MYTH: Withdrawal of the penis before ejaculation during the sexual act doesn’t get you pregnant.
FACT: You know all it takes it a sperm to get pregnant. It can also happen through pre – ejaculation. Guys leak a bit of sperm out of the penis even before ejaculation, which means that even if a guy pulls out before he ejaculates, a girl can still become pregnant.
MYTH: You’d know if you or your partner had a Sexually Transmitted Disease( STD)
FACT: It isn’t true always. In most people, STDs do not show symptoms but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t worry about them. If left untreated, they can turn into dangerous infections that can lead to the incurable and dangerous disease known as Acquired Immuno Deficiency Syndrome(A.I.D.S.) It is caused by a virus that is spread primarily by unprotected sex (including anal and oral sex), contaminated blood transfusions, hypodermic needles, and from mother to child during pregnancy, delivery, or breastfeeding.
MYTH: Condoms can only be worn by guys
FACT: The female condom is an interesting experiment, and can be used even more effectively than birth control pills. A female condom is a polyurethane sheath with a flexible ring at either end. One end is closed and inserted into the vagina; the other end is open and the ring sits outside the opening of the vagina. It should be taken out right after intercourse.